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Fifteen Commandments to Stay Positive in Negative Situations

Fifteen Commandments to Stay Positive in Negative Situations

Life is not always a bed of roses. It just witnesses and/or presents a lot of sine-curve situtions of crest and trough throughout. It is just the experience that one gains to greet smiling situations without too much ecstasy or prevents/saves on from crashing/succumbing to a grievous situation. In one of the mailing lists, there was an interesting tips on keeping fresh in an otherwise desert-like situation. In other words, a few tips to stay positive in negative situations. I just thought I would share these with other readers as well.

  1. Never respond when you are not calm. If you are not sure that you are calm refrain from responding at that moment. Take time to calm yourself down first.

  2. A little deep breathe should help gathering calm and compose face.

  3. Speak in gentle tone to reduce the tension of the situation.

  4. Realize that you can find opportunities in negative situations. Albert Einstein said: "In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity."

  5. Look at the content of what people say to you for something positive that you can act upon to improve yourself. Don't just reject the whole messages.

  6. For the rest of the messages which is negative, simply ignore it.

  7. Maintain positive view of the people. Maybe you don't like their messages or behavior, but that doesn't mean that you can hate them personally.

  8. Realize that having negative feelings will just hurt you, not them. So there is no reason for you to have any negative feeling.

  9. If you make mistakes, be open to admit it.

  10. If you make mistakes, remember this quote by George Bernard Shaw: "A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing."

  11. If you can, listen to motivational audio program to feed positive thoughts into your mind.

  12. Talk to a positive friend who can encourage you.

  13. Remember your favorite quotes to give you inspiration and motivation. This is one reason why you should have quote of the day.

  14. Look at the negative situations as your training sessions for real life. The higher you climb in life, the worse the negative situations would be, so you'd better be prepared for them.

  15. Realize that you can't please everyone. In fact, nobody can. Sometimes you need to just let some people go. Realizing this will relieve you from a lot of unnecessary burden so that you can focus on the people that you can positively interact with.

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